But what about my 8-year-old son who has epilepsy? What about my 77-year-old Mother who has Alzheimer’s? I am not telling you to abandon close family members who need help. You will need to make special accommodations to your plans for them, but don’t abandon them. This advice is about bringing in strangers and other outsiders into your group. Your first responsibility is your household, family & true friends, not strangers or even distant relations.
3- Bizarre or Unusual Requests Early On. If you are just getting to know someone and they suddenly hit you with a bizarre or very unusual request, tread carefully. These people don’t understand boundaries, and probably have additional underlying problems.
Examples of bizarre requests might be to borrow a significant sum of money, or to keep a major secret they inexplicably told you about, or to quickly make a serious commitment, or to do something illegal or unethical. Those are the type of requests you might make of a life-long best friend, not of someone you have only recently met. Beware.
4- Dishonesty. Its one thing (and probably a good thing) to be guarded with personal information, and concerned with maintaining privacy. We should all be that way. However, it is something else entirely to outright lie. Don’t expect someone to completely open up to you and tell you everything about their life, especially early on. But you should expect them to be honest in what they do tell you.
5- Chaos in Their Personal Life. A lack of stability in their life may be a major warning sign. If they bounce in and out of work often or spend large stretches of time unemployed – it is probably a bad sign. Same goes for other areas of their lives – friendships, relationships, living arrangements, and so on. Do they bounce in and out of relationships often? Does their life seem full of drama where things seem to constantly go wrong and they always seem to have problems of one sort or another? A chaotic life now will certainly carry over to a chaotic life after SHTF, Of course context matters, so use common sense. Anyone can be laid off from work, or go through a rough patch in their relationships. However, constant chaos is not normal. Look for trends within their life, not one time events.
6- Don’t Share Your Values and Worldview. If they don’t share your same worldview, values, and religious & political beliefs, then they won’t be a good fit for your group or community. Minor differences of opinion are okay, but major differences on important topics will hinder group dynamics. In fact, a major crisis or SHTF event will only exacerbate these differences.
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